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Reparation for infidelity doesn't happen on its own...
Trust needs to be rebuilt throughout your relationship.
There are legitimate barriers to repair that need to be addressed if you really hope to get the sex life you (and your partner) want!
The lack of trust is rather disturbing. Especially if you know your partner isn’t happy, right?
Having a partner who is not open to repair makes you feel like you’re being rejected. Especially if you know that your partner is pretending to have desire or avoiding sex as a result of infidelity.
And it can be confusing following infidelity. How can you love each other and be so good together, and yet have difficulty repairing this moment of betrayal?
Which of these points concern you?
- You are concerned about your partner’s well-being
- You want the relationship to be smoother and less tense between the two of you.
- You are a beautiful couple in many spheres, but this situation has tainted your well-being together.
- You feel isolated because you don’t want to tell anyone about it
- Or you have a lot of different opinions from those around you and you don’t know what to choose or how to proceed
- You want to feel close, complicit and connected with your partner
- You (or your partner) live with the guilt of the lack of sexual desire
- You want your partner to trust you again
- You want to assume your choice to stay in the relationship and want to rebuild for the future
If this is your case, I’m here for you! And if you’re like most couples I work with, you want the relationship to be fun and easy…
… and Not to have the impression of simply enduring and tolerating the relationship in its current state.
Whether you’re young and completely in love, you’ve been together for a while with a foundation that was solid, OR you’ve spent a lifetime together full of love and respect… The reparation of this betrayal will not be made without effort on the part of everyone.
Think about it! This situation is probably one of the elements that will define your relationship for a long time. It is possible to accept the trauma, repair the betrayal, and reconcile the relationship. However, this process does not mean that we excuse or justify the acts, but that we recognize its impact. That we take the next step for ourselves, for our couple and move towards a better being.
If you just make sporadic arguments about infidelity, then...
You are dealing with the situation in emotional states that are not helpful to the healing process
Has it worked so far? If you’re like most couples who come to therapy with me, it’s most likely a “no.”
But that’s completely normal! Because you focused on the wrong thing!
If you change the mind-set from ” we only approach it when the situation arises ” to ” we take constructive and chosen moments to address it”, it allows you to have…
A life as a couple that brings more serenity into your daily life and to be less on the alert!
The irony is that by trying to make the situation less and less present itself in order to buy peace, the problem grows and resentment explodes.
Here's the Truth
A life as a couple where there was acceptance, reparation and reconciliation after infidelity:
- Deepens the intimacy between you and your partner, creating more connection!
- Helps you get rid of any feelings of resentment and recurring bickering
- Avoids BREAKUPS in your relationship due to the exhaustion of repetitive conflicts
- Creates a new paradigm for your relationship that increases the trust and sense of attachment in your relationship
- And… She accomplishes all of this for your well-being and marital satisfaction.
La confiance se reconstruit, un geste à la fois
Après une infidélité, la réparation ne se produit pas toute seule. Elle demande des outils concrets, du courage et un accompagnement, pas seulement le temps qui passe.
The No. 1 mistake couples keep making
When a person struggles with the wound of betrayal
She feels guilty for not being able to move on. She feels broken.
We have the impression that everything depends on her. As if it were the problem of not being able to get over it. And it’s up to her to solve the wound
If this is your case, you already know how heavy it is to carry. Guilt. Shame. Despair. Confusion. And even the resentment that can come from feeling like you’re the problem.
And you already know that feeling bad about yourself does NOT help you feel like accepting the situation and being able to forgive.
It also doesn’t help if the partner who committed the infidelity feels like they don’t know what to do to fix the situation.
Or even worse! Mistake n°2...
The partner who committed the infidelity reveals the information in dribs and drabs… Thus creating moments of repeated micro and/or macro betrayal.
The partner who has been betrayed often does not ask the most relevant and helpful questions to improve the situation. We want details about the acts and gestures taken, rather than the context, meaning and justifications that the person who was unfaithful used to jump the fence. This creates images that increase the trauma of betrayal.
There will come a time when they will no longer bear the idea of dwelling “Ad vitam æternam” (indefinitely) on the same subjects and details, without resolution.
Continuing to lack transparency doesn’t actually make the other person happy! He wants a partner who is honest and transparent… not a partner who continues to protect himself.
The No. 3 mistake couples keep making
Infidelity is a betrayal of the deepest nature, and a wound that is multiplied because it involves a violation of the trust and intimacy that are the foundations of a committed couple!
Working only on communication DOESN’T WORK! Some couples recognize that their injury simply requires communication on the subject. WRONG. There are gestures and acts as well as intimate activities that are necessary to heal and forgive infidelity.
Getting better at discussing the problem doesn’t make it go away! While these skills are important, they alone do nothing to bring about the repair required!
Don’t you think that learning certain communication tools, such as “communication in I” or “expressing one’s needs”, are enough to settle the betrayal and the wound? Even therapists make this mistake sometimes, simplifying the work that needs to be done.
In fact, until you DIRECTLY CONFRONT the painful truth that has come to light through this infidelity, this problem will never go away.
And after more than 15 years of supporting clients in my sex therapy practice and training health professionals on the subject, it’s as clear and simple as this:
Really wanting to rebuild our emotional and sexual intimacy and trust in the couple.
Your emotional life and sexual intimacy requires you to move to an intimacy that is not reciprocated, but validated by yourself, for BOTH partners. You and your partner DESERVE a strong intimate connection and a couple and sex life that has become complicit again!
The chances that both of you are dissatisfied are high. Having sex out of pity or obligation is not fun for anyone. Being in love with someone you can’t trust is a mediocre experience.
The fear of the cheating person (PI) is that truth and transparency will end the relationship. When in reality she will let their partner be free of their pain and be able to begin the process of acceptance and reparation. The fear of the betrayed person (PT) is that if they don’t let go of their over-vigilance, they will find themselves blindly betrayed once again.
But when you continue to perceive that maintaining these rigid barriers offers you rather than harms you, the situation will persist. Instead, it weakens that intimacy and complicity that you want to find. It casts a dark shadow over all the other spheres that work so well.
What happens when time passes and we stop arguing about infidelity?
Or that you spend weeks, months avoiding sexuality due to these wounds of betrayal?
What happens then? The elephant in the room just gets bigger. Stifling joy, laughter and affection evaporates.
But when you LEARN and MASTER the skills to ACCEPT, REPAIR and RECONCILE, you can enjoy a couple and sex life together that seems easier and lighter! You can focus on the rest of your life, because you no longer have to waste your energy on worry, guilt, frustration, disappointment, and fear.
You are struggling with the consequences of infidelity
But you’re afraid to talk about it or tackle the problem because you don’t think there’s anything that can be done about it. You tolerate the situation for now. You think it’s not THAT bad… or that time will heal things on their own.
Well, you may be right!
MOST couples in trouble live like this for years, looking good (at least from the outside). But do you really want to wait until the situation gets SO BAD ? Do you want to wait until maybe it’s too late?
Of course not! And no problem magically disappears while we pretend it’s not there, right?
It’s so easy to convince yourself that everything is going to be okay… possibly. To say, ” We’ll take care of it when the storm has subsided.” Or: ” Once I have more energy, we can focus on it ” Or: ” I don’t want to put pressure or make my partner uncomfortable.”
Or even, “Maybe if we just give him time, it will get better.”
BUT…
Are you as close and connected with your partner as you could be? What’s going on beneath the surface of your relationship? How long can your partner go on without a trusting and intimate and pleasant relationship with you?
Do you really want a life where you both have this stressful and awkward wall between you?
NO!
So, what's more important?
… that you do EVERYTHING you can to make your relationship totally solid, secure and connected…
OR that you stay in your comfort zone, but unsatisfactory and keep procrastinating, hoping that will change, or pretending that everything is fine?
Retrouver la complicité et la légèreté
Imaginez pouvoir à nouveau rire, vous taquiner et vous sentir proches, sans l'ombre de la trahison qui plane entre vous.
Ready to repair trust and rebuild your relationship?
The program guides you step-by-step, at your own pace, at home.
You want MORE happiness, not less. Isn't it?
The reality is that the strength of trust and the brokenness that infidelity has caused has a direct impact on the strength of your relationship! The impact of this conflict not resolved properly is like a crack in the foundation of your home!
So, now that you realize how vital your intimate connection is to your relationship, you might start to feel the slightly daunting and big task of actually improving that connection…
AVOIDING INFIDELITY-RELATED ISSUES INCREASES THE PRESSURE YOU FEEL
Are you (or your partner) currently suffering from "We don't know what to do anymore" syndrome?
If you’re like most of those who have read this far, you’re starting to see the importance of a fulfilling couple and sex life and what it will do for the strength and connection of your relationship… But you probably imagine yourself before bed wondering:
“I’m still at the same point, I just need to forgive or be forgiven for my partner to be happy?!”
OR
“Is our relationship all about this infidelity?”
“Is it going to be stressful for the rest of our lives? Do I really have to think about it all the time?!
It can be so daunting and discouraging that you avoid it, looking for other ways to stay busy and distracted in your life. And I understand.
But here’s a little “Insider Secret” for you:
Getting the relationship you want means bringing out the best part of yourself!
Do you know that the best part of ourselves is able to admit the worst parts of ourselves, because the worst part of us denies its own existence! – David Schnarch
It's a bit like a double-edged sword: How to acknowledge everything you've done to your partner and admit the justifications for infidelity will improve the relationship. Won't that hurt his partner even more?
On the contrary, as long as your partner has the impression that you are hiding things or that you do not assume the depth of the wound you have caused, the repair cannot be done.
Will this healing process be painful for both partners? Of course… but not as painful as letting this unproductive situation drag on for years to come.
So, what if you had a step-by-step method to find these obstacles? What if you had a process to find out what would make acceptance, reparation, and reconciliation possible for both of you?
Imagine if you had a way to share complicity and trust again… Sexuality and love moments once again in a peaceful way. EVEN if one of you hasn’t felt safe in a long time!
No more guilt!
No more pressure!
No more disappointment!
No more sex for fear of another infidelity!
No more need to avoid it!
My clients are always surprised when I make this statement. How can a betrayal as important as infidelity be BENEFICIAL??!!??.
Because it forces the couple to take a step back and recognize the gaps in their sexuality and relationship. Being in a relationship pushes us to recognize our limits as partners and our insecurities in sexuality and relationships.
The relational/sexual hollow is simply the obligatory step to access a more satisfying, more intimate relationship with a better version of oneself that is more MATURE on a relational and sexual level. Unfortunately, some couples go through this phase with a deep shake-up of their relationship and infidelity. This does not mean that the relationship has to end. Even though it may be the best option for some.
It is possible to transform your life as a couple after infidelity. Just imagine for a moment…
… that you excitedly anticipate the moment of being with your partner (instead of that awkward and tense tension wishing the situation didn't explode yet)...
… You and your partner exchange a genuine, knowing smile when an intimate scene comes up on TV (instead of that discomfort because of the elephant in the room)…
… You two can be teasing and naughty in the kitchen (without that fear that it can lead to a fight)…
… You could have the closeness and connection that results from a fulfilling sex life from NOW!
Wouldn’t that be nice?
Well, you don’t have to “imagine” it anymore. Because… it’s POSSIBLE!
LET ME PRESENT THE PROGRAM:
- A series of videos that accompany you on your journey towards accepting infidelity for the Betrayed Person (PT)
- Concrete actions for the Cheating Person (IP) to make reparation and finally ask for forgiveness sincerely
- An exploration for meaningful decision-making on real reconciliation
- Questionnaires to make you think and have intimate, deep discussions with your partner
- Activities that explore your sexuality alone and as a couple to solidify your emotional and sexual bond following this breach of trust.
An approach centered on radical integrity and finding an emotional balance for each of the partners to be able to have a deeper and more authentic intimacy.
Here's what you'll learn when you become a member of the program:
SECTION 1
Understanding the impacts of infidelity
By having a better understanding of the consequences of betrayal, you will be able to remove unnecessary emotional tension and reduce unproductive conflicts.
You will eliminate strategies that hinder the establishment of a bond of trust and repair and develop a new way of engaging in dialogue.
You will stop believing that communication is the solution and that better mind-mapping (the central concept of the program) your partner will bring you to the life of a couple and the intimacy you want.
- The different stages of grief following a breach of trust
- Reaction to infidelity: Flayed forgiveness and botched reconciliation
- Cycle of development and stagnation in a couple
- What are the reasons that push and lead to justify infidelity?
- The importance of rebuilding oneself
- Redefining your relationship: mind-mapping, sexuality and infidelity
SECTION 2
Elements that kill your relationship more
In the dynamics of the relationship:
Learn about the factors that hinder acceptance, reparation and reconciliation.
Recognize problematic dynamics in your relationship that have been detrimental to marital and sexual satisfaction
Discover the issues in the relationship that led to infidelity
- Poorly managed conflict management
- Combative Alliance
- Collusive alliance
- Absence of alliance
- Emotional impasse leads to infidelity
- Normal martial sadism: When wickedness creeps in…
- How your relationship dynamics talk about your relationship anxiety and insecurity
- Reduce jealousy and possessiveness
- From hypervigilance to mind-mapping
- What we do and what we don’t say often communicates more than the words spoken
In the dynamics of sexuality:
Understand that your sexuality as a couple is more complex than you imagine!
This complexity leads to your difficulties, but it is also the solution to it.
Perceiving that your vulnerability is not a weakness, but a tool for relational maturity
Establish that we make love as we have been loved by our loved ones!
- Infidelity is rarely just about sex
- Difference in sexual desire and immaturity leads to infidelity
- When he had sexual betrayal before the infidelity
- Reciprocal sexual intimacy and a great need for validation
- Meeting your emotional needs through sexuality
- Feeling sexually desired is not the same as feeling loved
- Absent emotional seduction
- Dynamics on the difference in sexual desire between partners
- Pressure to have sex: a recipe for infidelity
- Our sexual insecurities and their impact on sexual desire
- Mind-mapping in sexuality: I see you and YOU see me!
SECTION 3
Moving from acceptance to repair to reconciliation
Learn to define yourself by your actions rather than those of your partner
Do the acts and gestures that will make amends: transparency, radical integrity, self-comfort
To achieve an intimacy that you have always wanted, but never dared to approach
Becoming more intimate after a deep wound
- Acceptance of Infidelity for the Betrayed Person (PT)
- Restorative gesture for the Unfaithful Person (IP)
- Choosing between rupture and reconciliation: Assuming your choice
- Emotional balance for a calming relationship and sexuality
- Intimate Activity and Affectionate Connection in Sexuality
- Self-disclosure and feelings of vulnerability
- Respect for oneself and others
What to expect from this program:
- Understanding what caused infidelity
- Stop behaviors that make the situation worse as a result of infidelity
- Better manage the conflicts that led to infidelity
- Accepting, repairing and reconciling after infidelity
- Increase your intimacy in your relationship through concrete intimate activities
- Changing the paradigm that communication is the solution to your relationship problems
- Integrating mind-mapping into your relationship and sexuality
- Each video offers a questionnaire to push your reflection
It's great, but...
What if my life is very busy right now?
That’s when you might say, “We have a lot of things going on (or our kids are in the middle of baseball season or my partner is working hard to get that promotion)… Shouldn’t I focus on that first? “NO.
The time is never right, and the best time is now!
There will always be reasons to postpone the resolution of the problems of your relationship and sexual life. There is always something that may seem more important. You might think, “But maybe once X, Y, and Z happen, it’ll be easier.” Does this sound familiar?
… But isn’t that exactly how the elephant has invited itself into the room?
I don’t want you to live even one more day overwhelmed by guilt, worry, stress, pain, pressure, and distance from your partner. Every day that passes erodes the strength of your relationship.
… Avoiding this only makes things worse. and it’s MUCH more stressful!
Don't wait any longer to act.
Let me help you decide to invest in your relationship.
If you were to attend an in-person workshop with me to learn these exact same strategies, you would pay almost $1200. Even my clients in my sex therapy practice pay over $130 per hour to get the same information.
When you sign up for Rebuilding After Infidelity, you get over a decade of sex therapy experience with hundreds of couples!
Rebuilding after infidelity is normally priced at $730. However, because you’re reading this, I’ve decided to reduce over 50% of the price for the webinar, which is only $350 (or 3 installments of $159)!
Is this program for me?
- Is your relationship still arguing and you can no longer get along about infidelity?
- Have you had little sexuality for a long time?
- You have little to no conflict… But you never found complicity in the couple?
- Do you have differences in sexual desire and compromise seems impossible?
- Are you too hurt to have sex?
- You no longer have emotional or sexual intimacy since the infidelity?
- Has your relationship stagnated and it seems impossible to overcome the situation?
- Don’t you dare to say certain things to your partner?
You answered “yes” to one or more of these questions: Rebuilding yourself after infidelity could help you!
SUMMARY
A quick summary of the program
- Several hours of content, broken down into short videos on the topics and concepts of infidelity
- Questionnaires to help you reflect on your own and/or with your partner
- A new understanding of your relationship and of infidelity
- Concrete tools to deepen your sexual intimacy and emotional connection
- Guidance for acceptance, repair and reconciliation
- An understanding of mind-mapping and how it helps your sexuality day to day
- Activities and reflections to do alone or as a couple
- A sexuality and a relationship that truly suit you
- Greater relational maturity
Making the decision to improve your relationship is about one thing: Creating the best relationship possible.
Think about it! Every big change or transformation you’ve experienced has ALWAYS started with a DECISION. Have you ever considered that one of the main reasons your relationship and sexuality is difficult is that you haven’t been able to make a decision and back that decision with committed action?
I want to give you the opportunity to CHOOSE ! Choose whether to fix this issue or not. Choose to let more time pass – with more resentment for you AND your partner – or…
… Choose to tackle this directly as an investment in your well-being and the strength of your relationship!
But CHOOSE quickly!
This means that there has never been a better time than NOW to start!
But if you put it off, what will change? Don’t wait! You can get started today!
Participate in the program now and create the fun and easy couple and sex life your relationship deserves!
FAQ
He has no time limit to complete it. However, it is important to create an incentive to invest in the program and not to forget it. It can sometimes be difficult to take the time and give the necessary importance to our sexuality and our life as a couple. To fully benefit from the program, you must take your time to complete it, but also have assiduity to experience the changes.
It is not necessary for your partner to listen to it with you. This program equips you to work on yourself in the relationship and your sexuality. The process can be more rewarding when your partner collaborates with you on the exchange of discussions and the reflections provided. It is possible to do the process of acceptance on your own and choose reconciliation. However, without the help of the partner, a repair with them is not possible. However, the program focuses on the individual power that a person can have over the relationship. When one partner changes the dynamic and works on the paradigms, the couple moves, whether the other partner wants to work on themselves or not. It is for this reason that the acceptance phase is at the heart of the program, because you can repair yourself after infidelity, but not repair the relationship without the partner’s participation. The program helps you become collaborative and encourage others to be as well.
You will receive an email with information on how to access the videos and have access to the documentation for the program.
Couples therapy will thoroughly assess your personal issues and offer you personalized follow-up and privileged support. However, therapy requires a lot of time, money, and emotional resources. Many of the activities, reflections and concepts are addressed in therapy in the program, but they are available at a lower cost than through a follow-up directly with Francois Renaud, sexologist and psychotherapist. This program is offered to people who want to go at their own pace and who want a process with more autonomy. It can also be a springboard to couples therapy later on where several concepts and explorations will have already been started.
Yes, this program can accelerate the momentum of your therapy and save time on concepts and reflections that will be addressed in therapy. It also allows you to increase your autonomy in your personal journey and to work more on yourself between sessions.
I want to help you go further in your relationship and your sexuality
François Renaud M.A.
Sexologist Psychotherapist
I have been in private practice since 2011 and I appear regularly in the media, on radio and television. My humorous style makes it easier to lighten subjects around sexuality that are often taboo and difficult to raise. My approach tackles the underlying issues in relationships, and I do not shy away from talking about sexuality in detail. That makes it possible to integrate, at a deep level, the concepts and the changes your relationship and your sexual life as a couple need. Using the mind-mapping concept helps redefine the couple dynamics that kill love and your satisfaction as a couple. Mind-mapping also deepens your intimacy and the depth of your relationship and your sex life.
My approach puts my clients’ integrity first and brings out the best in them. I help put an end to the behaviours that create conflict in couples’ sexuality. I do not take four roads to get straight to the point, which can be confronting and therefore makes it possible to get to the heart of the issues in your relationship.
Get the Rebuilding After Infidelity program
Regular cost: $730
Value of $1200
$350
When paying for the program in full
or 3 payments of $159
Terms and Conditions
The information contained on this website and the resources that are available for download are for educational and informational purposes only.
The information cannot be considered as professional medical or mental health advice. Even though the program is offered by a sexologist and psychotherapist and covers health topics, the information is not a substitute for the advice of a professional who knows the facts and circumstances of your individual situation.
We encourage you to consult a mental health professional as named in the program as necessary for your situation.
We cannot be held responsible for any damages you may have in the event that you do not consult a medical professional who is familiar with your particular case.
The use of this program can in no way be considered as a therapeutic relationship of a professional therapist-client nature as considered in a personalized follow-up with a psychotherapist sexologist.
The purchase of this program is not an agreement to be a client of Francois Renaud as one understands in a psychotherapy department. You accept and acknowledge that in order to accept yourself as a psychotherapy client in a personalized follow-up that is different from being a client who buys the program, you must first determine and consent to a personalized follow-up together following an in-person evaluation of your specific circumstances. This evaluation is not required to purchase and participate in this program.
Guarantee
Despite the fact that this program is based on theoretical concepts and approaches validated by research in sexology and psychotherapy and on years of experience and university training and continuing education as a sexologist and psychotherapist. It is impossible for me to guarantee any results or changes by following this program. This goes against the code of ethics of sexologists who are members of the professional order of sexologists of Quebec.
The possible changes you could have through this program is largely based on the effort and commitment you put into it. Your particular situation may require more in-depth help in a personalized follow-up. This program is aimed at people who wish to be self-taught in their personal and couple journey and/or who wish to begin an independent process.
Une intimité plus profonde qu'avant
Plusieurs couples ressortent de cette épreuve plus forts, plus complices et plus authentiques. La réconciliation est possible.
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