INTRODUCTION TO THE WEBSERIES: SENSUAL & EROTIC EDUCATION Subscribe to the newsletter to receive the publication dates of the videos Subscribe to our mailing list This webseries, offered by a sexologist and psychotherapist will be educational and reflective. It will offer information and activities to explore alone or with a partner. It will also allow the viewers to obtain a
Normal Marital Sadism (NMS)* Learning to hate our partners We don’t really anticipate that one day we will take pleasure out of hurting someone we love. We want even less to admit to it. For most people & couples, their reflex is to deny immediately any form of dishonesty and heartaches we cause to each other. What possible reason
How to Construct and Maintain it Once you’ve figured your type of alliance, it is important to understand that it only takes one partner to change it so that it becomes collaborative. What Is a Collaborative Alliance? A collaborative alliance works out and reinforces our 4 points of balance. This type of alliance requires that you see your couple
How they affect your love and sex life?* We would all like to believe that romantic relationships and sexuality come naturally to couples who are mature and sane. Of course, we tolerate certain conflicts & bumps that are inevitable. Although, how do we get through a conflict that just doesn’t seem to be resolved? What are the elements that help
What Should I Do?* As we’ve discussed in the previous articles before, neither the High Desire Partner (HDP), nor the Low Desire Partner (LDP) have a better position in the dynamic of the couple. We tend to hear couples saying that they have the bad reputation in the couple and they wished that their lover would better understand them. Thing
Overcoming The Fear of Rejection* No one likes to be rejected, especially by someone we care deeply about and that their opinion of us sometimes exceeds our own. In the dynamic of the High Desire Partner (HDP) and Low Desire Partner (LDP) both partners feel rejected, but in different ways and for different reasons. This perpetual fear of rejection drives
How to Overcome The Issue?* Sexual desire is defined as a sexual attraction or drive towards another person with whom we want to share real or fantasized sexual activities with. There are also many different types of sexual desire that one can express. Each one brings a dynamic to the couple and each partner may not share the same types
SEX, baseball & PIZZA A MUST WATCH! How can changing our perception of sexuality in a simple manner so that we have more satisfactory sex lives. This video explains how we’ve being going at it all wrong for many years. http://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one.html BASEBALL PERSPECTIVE OF SEX Competitive Loser-winner situation Externaly-control Ruled bound Goal directed PIZZA PERSPECTIVE OF SEX Inclusive Communicative
The underlying issue in couples* Couples fight and it’s always going to be that way, it’s inevitable. It’s not the most fun thing to do with the love of our life. We would all prefer that we all get along and we live happily ever after. Unfortunately and fortunately that is not how it works. People can’t agree on
The 4 Points of Balance* Tolerating self-validated intimacy is hard for everyone. It obliges us to maintain a strong sense of self, to self-sooth, have a grounded responses and a meaningful endurance. Each of these 4 points allows a person to maintain balance in the relationship so they grow as an individual and as a partner. When one of these fail,
