{"id":65,"date":"2013-01-30T22:29:00","date_gmt":"2013-01-30T21:29:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co\/2013\/01\/relationship-patterns-and-seduction.html"},"modified":"2013-01-30T22:29:00","modified_gmt":"2013-01-30T21:29:00","slug":"relationship-patterns-and-seduction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/en\/blog\/2013\/01\/30\/relationship-patterns-and-seduction\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship patterns and seduction"},"content":{"rendered":"

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We all have patterns in our romantic relationships, which have variable impacts on our lives. They often change due to our personal development so they can better serve our needs according to our beliefs, experiences and values related to our perception of love. In other words, they are modifiable in order to protect us and help us\u00a0grow as individuals.\u00a0When patterns are unhealthy, they usually make us feel unhappy, lonely, mixed up, rejected and get us into problematic relationships We therefore find ourselves in a vicious cycle of bad choices when it comes to our love life with feelings of disappointment which subsequently affect us.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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Healthy patterns\u00a0enable us to personally grow in our couple and the unhealthy ones\u00a0are trying to protect us maladaptively. The latter are paradoxically comfortable in spite of the many problems they generate, because we can predict them and generate a sense of security. Changing patterns, all different circumstances put aside, causes anxiety for everyone. The feeling of anguish, when it comes to love, decreases motivation to modify patterns. Some people however are capable of changing them, which enables them to grow in the relationships they maintain.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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Romantic patterns begin as soon as we meet another person for the first time In order to answer\u00a0our pre-established criteria, we make a selection of whom we seduce and who is allowed to flirt with us.\u00a0When we start\u00a0to reflect on the people we choose to seduce and those we avoid, one can detect patterns of seduction. It is not rare to flirt with people who we feel at\u00a0ease with , even if they aren\u2019t always our first choice. We seldom approach individuals who\u00a0 intimidate us or we do not feel equal to , because we assume, we will be rejected and inevitably hurt. We thus avoid changing our romantic patterns, in spite of the difficulties they create, in order to stay in our comfort zone.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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\u00a0 \u00a0In short, when we find ourselves in an unhealthy\u00a0pattern, we avoid situations where we feel discomfort, fear or ill at ease, However, when we allow ourselves to live moments and situations of seduction that provoke more anxiety, we discover new aspects of ourselves and unexplored relationships are now possible.\u00a0Awkwardness and missteps should not discourage us because they are part of the process towards change and growth\u00a0 as a person.\u00a0Eventually, we find our middle ground and it allows us to become more natural and fluid in being who we are.\u00a0The next time you find yourselves in a context of flirting, choose the person you are really interested in and approach the ones that intimidate you.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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Dare to take chances and be happily surprised!\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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Francois Renaud M.A.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
Sex therapist & Psychotherapist Montreal<\/a><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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