{"id":27,"date":"2016-02-08T21:53:00","date_gmt":"2016-02-08T20:53:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/blog\/2016\/02\/08\/infidelity-is-it-really-the-worst-thing-that-can-happen-to-a-couple\/"},"modified":"2016-02-08T21:53:00","modified_gmt":"2016-02-08T20:53:00","slug":"infidelity-is-it-really-the-worst-thing-that-can-happen-to-a-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/en\/2016\/02\/infidelity-is-it-really-the-worst-thing-that-can-happen-to-a-couple\/","title":{"rendered":"Infidelity: Is it really the worst thing that can happen to a couple?"},"content":{"rendered":"

How to grow from an infidelity<\/span><\/h2>\n
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The deep trauma of infidelity<\/h3>\n
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No one wants to experience infidelity from their partner. The hurt feelings, the betrayal, the hate, the resentment, the unanswered questions, the feeling of being undesirable in their eyes, the competitiveness from the other partner. Nothing from infidelity seems to be positive and the first thing we want to do is throw them to the curb. Which is what most of your friends and family will tell you to do. For some reason, you aren’t sure if you want to leave and you might even feel guilty about it. <\/b>What would explain such ambivalence towards someone who profoundly hurt your feelings and broke your trust. What if this infidelity was the best thing that could happen to your sex life and relationship?<\/div>\n
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Learning from the infidelity<\/h4>\n
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Now don’t get me wrong! I am not and never will be pro-infidelity. It can be compared to a traumatic experience to learn that your partner betrayed you and chose egotistically<\/b>\u00a0to satisfy their needs with another person. Infidelity is unfortunately not that uncommon and men as well as women do it for various reasons. Those reasons is what you can learn from this terrible experience. How they answer the questions and how your partner expresses their process of becoming unfaithful is a dialogue that can bring you to have a deeper understanding of your relationship and possibly what was wrong with it.\u00a0<\/b><\/div>\n
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It is possible that the answers you receive are going to be hard to hear or sometimes even untrue. Other times, they will never satisfy your curiosity about what went on, or how or when or how many times. But, they might also make you realize that there was something lacking in the relationship<\/b> or your sex life<\/b>. That you might have betrayed them in other ways and never gave it a second thought.<\/div>\n
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Let’s not start pointing the blame towards the person that was cheated on with this discussion<\/b>. The importance is to take the time to listen on both sides about how this came to be in the relationship and maybe, how you could even repair it.<\/p>\n

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What questions should you ask?<\/h4>\n
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The time of day, the number of calls, the where and the who are not questions that will alleviate the hurt feelings. Actually, they might just make it worst as they don’t really bring the answers to the questions you are probably not willing to hear.<\/b>\u00a0A true dialogue on our partner’s infidelity is one of the conversations that can be extremely confrontational and requires that we truly listen<\/b>, even though, we might be the one that needs comfort and listening at that time. The questions that might bring light unto the situation are the following:<\/div>\n
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