{"id":26051,"date":"2026-07-27T14:15:05","date_gmt":"2026-07-27T18:15:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/blog\/2026\/07\/27\/love-or-victory-how-to-choose-the-link-without-betraying-yourself\/"},"modified":"2026-07-27T14:15:05","modified_gmt":"2026-07-27T18:15:05","slug":"love-or-victory-how-to-choose-the-link-without-betraying-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/en\/blog\/2026\/07\/27\/love-or-victory-how-to-choose-the-link-without-betraying-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"“Love or victory? How to choose the link without betraying yourself”"},"content":{"rendered":"

Be right or have a nice evening? The couples’ silent dilemma <\/strong><\/h1>\n

In all couples, there is that moment when everything changes.
A remark, a tone of voice, a badly digested memory… And suddenly, the complicity crumbles.
What was supposed to be a great night becomes a debate about who’s right<\/em> \u2014 an emotional duel where no one really wins.<\/p>\n

As a sexologist<\/a> and psychotherapist, we often hear this sentence:<\/p>\n

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“We just wanted to have a nice evening, but everything got out of hand.”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Behind these banal scenes lies a profound dilemma: should we protect our personal integrity or preserve the link with the other?<\/strong>
And how do we know if our firmness is a sign of strength… or fragility?<\/p>\n

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Why wanting to be right becomes a relationship trap<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Wanting to be right is a human and natural reflex.
It’s not (just) a question of ego \u2014 it’s a way of defending one’s vision of the world, one’s feelings and one’s need to be understood.<\/p>\n

But in the life of a couple, this reflex can become a trap.
Each partner wants to be recognized in his or her truth. However, when two truths confront each other, the relationship becomes an emotional battlefield: <\/p>\n