{"id":26030,"date":"2026-07-27T14:14:05","date_gmt":"2026-07-27T18:14:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/blog\/2026\/07\/27\/loss-of-sexual-desire\/"},"modified":"2026-09-09T13:56:13","modified_gmt":"2026-09-09T17:56:13","slug":"loss-of-sexual-desire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/en\/blog\/2026\/07\/27\/loss-of-sexual-desire\/","title":{"rendered":"Loss of sexual desire"},"content":{"rendered":"

Loss of desire: A normal stage of the couple<\/h1>\n

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Sexual desire is a feeling that pushes us towards the other person so that we can meet a need. Everyone’s desire is activated by various factors like love, pleasure, masculinity, femininity, physical traits, personality, etc. Sexual desire evolves according to the age of the individuals and the duration of a couple. The majority of couples start with a high level of sexual desire that solidifies the romantic bond between the partners. The beginning of a romantic relationship is often described as being very passionate and filled with sexual fulfillment. Subsequently, an attachment is established that reinforces a sense of security in the couple. It’s not uncommon to find a sexual routine that has solidified at this stage of the relationship. At this stage, a large majority of couples may find themselves lacking desire, whether in one or both of the partners. This situation is quite normal and, in a way, desirable.<\/div>\n
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This phase is a test that couples must face in the evolution of their sex life. There comes a time in a long-term romantic relationship when we know by heart all the different sexual scenarios of our couple. Moreover, sexual desire is rarely high when we can predict our partner’s sexual behaviors and the way in which he or she will seduce us. So we have to become creative and reinvent our sexuality with our lover. How do we go about it when we feel like everything has already been tried?<\/div>\n
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Recognizing the dynamics of our relationship<\/h3>\n
First, we must recognize that we may tend to take our partner for granted. For example, asking our partner if he or she wants to have sex right before bed, without having seduced him or her during the evening, does not show much interest, because the other person has not really put in the effort. There are various reasons for our lack of sexual creativity. We can be afraid that the other person will <\/a>rejects, to appear ridiculous, to be embarrassed, etc. As a result, our self-esteem in our ability to seduce our partner is hurt. So we prefer to put as little effort as possible to avoid injury. For example, a person who would use his or her major assets to seduce their partner to receive in return a: “I don’t feel like it tonight!”.<\/s> will be much more disappointed than the person who only proposes sex at bedtime.<\/div>\n
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