{"id":26015,"date":"2026-07-27T14:13:21","date_gmt":"2026-07-27T18:13:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/blog\/2026\/07\/27\/sexual-desire-disorder-the-pact-with-the-devil\/"},"modified":"2026-09-09T13:56:29","modified_gmt":"2026-09-09T17:56:29","slug":"sexual-desire-disorder-the-pact-with-the-devil","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lesexologue.ca\/en\/blog\/2026\/07\/27\/sexual-desire-disorder-the-pact-with-the-devil\/","title":{"rendered":"Sexual Desire Disorder: The Pact with the Devil"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The descent into relational hell<\/h2>\n
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Increase the pressure in the relationship<\/h3>\n

In a couple, there is always one member who is the Partner with the Least Sexual Desire<\/b> (PMD)<\/b><\/a> and the other Partner who has the Most Sexual Desire<\/b> (PPD).<\/b><\/a> These relational roles create a variety of different dynamics and interactions in a long-term relationship<\/a>. When the roles of each are managed properly, the couple can evolve into a satisfying sexuality, despite the difference in the level of desire.<\/p>\n

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Most of the time, however, the management is questionable and the couple deteriorates over the years. Sex life takes a major hit: bitterness is built, conflicts multiply and sexual intimacy deteriorates visibly.<\/b> How does this dynamic settle in a relationship where love was so present at the beginning of the relationship?<\/p>\n

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The beginning of the end<\/h4>\n
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Following the first refusal experienced by the Partner who has More Sexual Desire<\/b> (PPD)<\/b> who initiated a sexual relationship, there is the possibility that the couple’s sex life begins its descent. Refusal may have been avoided for a long time, as the Partner with the Least Sexual Desire<\/b> (PMD)<\/b> offered sex out of pity<\/a><\/b>.<\/div>\n
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The rejection and sometimes even humiliation that the partner feels in the face of the refusal has a significant impact on his or her esteem and actions afterwards. This person may try to put pressure on the other person in obvious or subtle ways to fulfill their sexual desires. The more refusals and rejections she receives, the less effort she will put into seduction and will decrease the frequency of her sexual initiations.<\/b> The PPD<\/b> accumulates its frustration over time and its anger will be felt by the other. Sometimes he will put so much pressure that he will become unpleasant for the PMD.<\/b> The pressure and tension then increase towards the PMD <\/b>in order to respond to the sexual desire of the PPD.<\/b><\/div>\n
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The PMD <\/b>constantly feels pressure from the other and tries to avoid as much as possible the seduction as well as the sexual initiatives coming from the PPD<\/b>. The PMD<\/b> can criticize the real or perceived pressure of the PPD <\/b>in an attempt to minimize it. The PPD<\/b> also sometimes has difficulty dealing with this pressure that he\/she imposes on the other even when he\/she tries not to.<\/div>\n
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The Devil’s Pact<\/a><\/h4>\n
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The couple then finds themselves faced with the dilemma of wanting to eliminate this pressure that is driving the PMD<\/b> of sexuality. The PMD<\/b> Possibly mentions that this pressure causes tension in the couple and kills their sexual desire. He can no longer feel free and his desire cannot occur naturally or spontaneously. He feels invaded by the other and invokes that the solution is to restrict seduction and sexual initiations from the PPD. <\/b>This logic makes sense to a certain degree for the PPD <\/b> who acknowledges that his attempts at rapprochement usually lead nowhere.<\/div>\n

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