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The 5 Signs of a Mature Relationship, According to a Sexologist In a world where romantic relationships are often portrayed as effortless sparks and grand gestures, we sometimes forget that lasting love is built on something much deeper. According to our seasoned sexologist, mature relationships aren’t born from perfect compatibility — they’re cultivated through emotional responsibility, empathy, and a shared

Francois Renaud M.A 25 April 2025

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What you want is love…not war

“The Fab Five You Should Totally Ghost During a Fight” Ah, love. That beautiful dance of shared dreams, warm cuddles, and… passive-aggressive comments about who really forgot to take out the trash. Relationships are a wild ride, and no one knows the potholes better than sexologist. They are the professionals who looks at your screaming match over dishwasher etiquette and

Francois Renaud M.A 17 April 2025

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Existential crisis and sexuality

The Midlife Crisis and Its Impact on Sexuality: A New Chapter to Write Turning forty is a significant milestone in life. It is often a time for reflection, questioning, and sometimes, an existential crisis. Sexuality, a fundamental aspect of identity and well-being, is also affected by this transition. For both men and women, midlife brings physiological, emotional, and relational changes

Francois Renaud M.A 21 March 2025

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How to be more present sexually with your partner

Eroticism: A Dance Between Sensuality and Authenticity Eroticism is much more than a mere sexual act. It is an invitation to explore pleasure in all its forms, through sensuality and authenticity. It thrives on the connection between the body and the relationship with others, on the play of the senses, and on genuine presence with oneself and a partner. But

Francois Renaud M.A 21 March 2025

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Premature ejaculation: the most common sexual problem in men

Premature Ejaculation: Understanding Causes and Solutions Premature ejaculation is a sexual difficulty that affects many men and can have repercussions on their self-confidence, sexual well-being, and partner satisfaction. This issue is often linked to psychological, physiological, and relational factors, including performance anxiety, the body’s natural laws, sexual presence anxiety, and the pressure exerted by masculinity norms. In this article, we

Francois Renaud M.A 27 February 2025

Erectile dysfunction

Penis won’t go up

Erectile Difficulty: Understanding, Managing, and Overcoming with the Help of a Sexologist Erectile difficulty is an issue that affects many men, yet it remains surrounded by silence, shame, and insecurity. Far from being solely a physiological problem, it is often linked to psychological and emotional factors such as performance anxiety, self-esteem, and the social pressure associated with masculinity. How can

Francois Renaud M.A 25 February 2025

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Why communication isn’t your problem?

Communication Problems in a Relationship: A Myth That Hides the Essential When a couple faces difficulties, the first reason often cited is a communication problem. We frequently hear: “We don’t know how to talk to each other anymore,” “He or she doesn’t listen to me,” or “We can’t understand each other.” While these statements may seem accurate, they are often

Francois Renaud M.A 21 February 2025

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I want to open my relationship: How do I go about it?

Negotiating Non-Monogamy Non-monogamy, in its many forms (polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, etc.), is built on a fundamental principle: negotiation. Unlike monogamy, where relationship rules are often implicit and largely dictated by social norms, non-monogamy requires explicit communication and clear agreements between partners. But how can one successfully negotiate an open relationship without falling into common pitfalls? From a sexologist’s

Francois Renaud M.A 20 February 2025

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Managing infidelity: rebuilding or rebuilding yourself?

Infidelity is an ordeal that upsets the foundations of a couple’s relationship. Betrayal, anger, incomprehension, guilt… Emotions are racing, and it can be difficult to know how to handle such a situation. Should we try to rebuild the couple or choose to rebuild ourselves individually? Here are some avenues for reflection and action to get through this crisis. 1. Welcoming

Francois Renaud M.A 19 February 2025

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Infidelity: Pardon, acceptance and reconciliation

Which Option is Best After Infidelity? Infidelity is a deeply unsettling experience that shakes the foundations of trust, attachment, and the very identity of a couple. In her book After the Affair, psychologist Janis Abrahms Spring offers a crucial distinction between acceptance, forgiveness, and reconciliation. These concepts help navigate the pain and choose a path that aligns with each person’s

Francois Renaud M.A 14 February 2025