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How to give each other moments as a couple quickly

Do you take the time to treat yourself to moments as a couple on a daily basis? If balancing your social life, work, household obligations and life as a couple is a headache, here are some tips that could help you.

An affective or sexual approach?

The signs of affection in a couple are of paramount importance for the well-being of the couple. They are recognized by kisses, hugs, sweet words and even by gestures as simple as being available, listening and taking an interest in the other. We are talking about an affective approach here. On the other hand, the sexual approach in a couple includes sexy looks, “French kisses”, sensual touches, seduction. All these sensual gestures can lead to creating quick moments as a couple. For example, taking the time to sensually touch your partner when you cook together or pass by each other, looking at your partner with envy to show him his desire, kissing more languidly instead of a little kiss. Often, words are not necessary to clearly demonstrate one’s desire, it is enough to include these small gestures on a daily basis in order to be able to build quick moments as a couple.

Putting sex on the agenda

It may be a mistake to think that planning your lovemaking with your partner might be strange, but this planning could allow you to escape the routine. It is normal for sexuality to fluctuate, for sexual desire to be high and sometimes completely flat. If we add stress and fatigue, sexuality is often the sphere of a relationship that is put aside. So, scheduling a time to get together with your partner could be very beneficial if you have a busy schedule. This moment must be convenient for both parties so that it is not seen as a task to be accomplished, but rather as a naughty date.

Working from home, an ally?

Yes, working from home could become your ally. When the children are at school or daycare and you are alone with your partner, each teleworking, it is possible to synchronize lunch breaks to meet in the bedroom. If you’re tired of the bedroom, take advantage of the fact that you’re home alone to explore other places like the shower or the kitchen counter. The temptation may be more easily awakened elsewhere, because the novelty aspect can make the whole thing much more exciting. If you don’t work from home, having sex before leaving for work can also be a little trick, because often, after a day at work, you come back tired and the temptation to make love is less great.

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Sexual foreplay

Sexuality is often perceived as having to end in penetration. But for many people, foreplay is the best part. In short, foreplay is a moment of tenderness, exchange and caress in order to give pleasure to your partner without necessarily having orgasm as its goal, although it can be an end in itself. Whether it’s through oral sex or any other non-penetrative sexual activity, foreplay includes the 5 senses: touch, hearing, sight, taste and smell. Plus, foreplay often lasts less time than penetrative sex, so if you’re short on time, practicing foreplay could offer you a happy medium.

“Sexter” is not just for teenagers!

Sexting refers to the sending of sexual messages through text messages. Writing to your partner what you want can increase the excitement within the couple or simply keep the flame alive, especially if you are in a long-distance relationship. If you don’t know where to start, you can simply tell the other person what you find attractive about them. In this sense, exchanging sexts could allow you to have quick moments as a couple while being pleasant and spontaneous.

Bath time?

If taking a bath with your partner seems to be too much in terms of time, taking a shower together can be just as enjoyable. It’s fast, it’s a time when it’s possible to get closer sexually and give yourself a moment of relaxation as a couple. Showering is already on your schedule every day, so getting your partner to be a part of it could boost excitement and change your routine.

In short, it’s up to you to choose what suits you best and what you feel comfortable with. All these means can help you establish quick moments as a couple and keep the love and sexual flame alive with your partner.

– Audrey Labelle, B.A.

sexologist