Blog by a sexologist psychotherapist

Listening vs considering: the key essential to resolving your couple’s issues

Listening or Considering in a Couple: Understanding the Difference to Better Understand Each Other In most couple conflicts, one sentence comes up again and again: “You’re not listening to me.” Often, the response is just as quick: “Yes I am, I’m listening.” This dialogue of the deaf illustrates a common confusion in intimate relationships: listening is not the same as

Francois Renaud M.A 9 February 2026

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I can’t manage my emotions. Our fights are getting explosive

Emotional Regression in Couples: Why It Happens… and How to Get Out of It Better understanding the reactions that overwhelm us so we can rebuild a more mature and peaceful connection In most couple conflicts, it’s not just two adults talking to each other. Sometimes we lose our footing, and a strong emotional takeover takes control. This is what we

Francois Renaud M.A 25 November 2025

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Why Consult a Sexologist in Montreal: Reasons, Timing, and How It Works

Why Consult a Sexologist: Understanding Yourself to Live Better Sexuality is an essential part of personal and relational well-being. Yet, talking about it still feels uncomfortable for many people. When pleasure, desire, or intimacy start causing tension, pain, or confusion, meeting with a sexologist can be a real turning point. A sexologist in Montreal is a professional trained to explore

Francois Renaud M.A 11 November 2025

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The Difference Between a Good Sexologist and the Best Sexologists

Discover what separates a good sexologist from the best — empathy, presence, and life-changing transformation. Finding a good sexologist isn’t that hard.But finding the best sexologists — the ones who truly transform lives, rekindle intimacy, and help people reconnect to themselves — is something else entirely. Every sexologist has training, theory, and listening skills.Yet some create change that lasts —

Francois Renaud M.A 28 October 2025

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Why So Many Women Struggle to Reach Orgasm and how a sexologist can help

When the Orgasm Plays Hide-and-Seek: Why So Many Women Struggle to Reach It It’s often described as fireworks, angels singing, toes curling in divine harmony — the grand finale of pleasure.Yes, we’re talking about the female orgasm. Except… for many women, those “fireworks” feel more like a damp sparkler that fizzles halfway. Studies show that 30% to 50% of women

Francois Renaud M.A 24 October 2025

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Why am I losing my erection?

Erection is not just about the body — it’s about trust, safety, and connection.
Learn why some men lose erections during partnered sex and how sex therapy restores balance between mind, body, and desire.

Francois Renaud M.A 16 October 2025

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“Love or Victory? Choosing Connection Without Losing Yourself”

Being Right or Having a Lovely Evening? The Silent Dilemma in Couples Every couple knows that moment when everything suddenly shifts.A comment, a tone of voice, a lingering memory—and just like that, the connection begins to fade.What was meant to be a pleasant evening turns into a debate about who’s right—an emotional duel where nobody truly wins. As sexologists and

Francois Renaud M.A 10 October 2025

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Why are women orgasming less?

The Great Orgasm Gap: Why Straight Women Deserve Better (and Maybe a To-Do List) Let’s talk about the most awkward, glorious, sweaty, and sometimes deeply disappointing moment in human interaction: the orgasm. Or, more specifically, let’s talk about the orgasm gap—that mysterious abyss where female pleasure goes to die (or at least gets lost on the way). The Orgasm Gap

Francois Renaud M.A 30 May 2025

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Sex is Painful

When the Body Says No: How Sexology Helps Women with Vaginal Pain Reconnect with Themselves Vaginal pain—whether dyspareunia (pain during intercourse) or vaginismus (involuntary contraction of pelvic floor muscles)—is far more than a medical issue. It is often the silent reflection of internal conflicts, complex personal histories, and deeply rooted personality traits. In sexological support, it’s not enough to address

Francois Renaud M.A 14 May 2025

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Pain during sex: Can I find pleasure again?

Understanding Vaginismus: Treatment, Emotions, and Partner Support Vaginismus is a condition that can deeply impact a person’s sexual wellbeing, emotional health, and relationships. It refers to the involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles, making penetration—whether during intercourse, gynecological exams, or even tampon insertion—painful or impossible. While vaginismus is often underdiagnosed due to shame or lack of awareness, it is treatable

Francois Renaud M.A 30 April 2025